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The Debate is Over

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As a blogger, I join a lot of internet forums devoted to belief. I’ve learned the internet does not discriminate between the genius and the deadbolt. Lower your gaze to the comments below any article for proof. Regardless of subject, you’ll find thoughtful responses stacked upon racist tirades stacked on pleas for marijuana legalization. The consequence of putting your ideas out there is that you can’t control the responses.

“Many of us take the bait because we think it shows strength to defend ourselves.”

You also get what are lovingly referred to as trolls. Folks who exist just to upset the apple cart. They post about delicious pigs in vegan forums. They plant right wing memes on black lives matter pages. They need more attention than the world can give, and my suggestion, outlined in this post, is to stop feeding the fire.

As a lack of belief, atheism has little choice but to define itself in relation to the believer. This may be why some chose to call themselves Brights instead. It’s more expansive. The only thing atheists have in common is a lack of belief. Brights can find more common and uncommon ground.

Still, atheist or Bright, you are susceptible to the same traps. Your lack of belief threatens the believer, and they are not shy to attack you. This explains why so many atheists are considered defensive – because they are literally always playing defense. As weird as it is to say this; There will always be people that do not understand why you don’t believe in an invisible God in the sky.

Some of those folks will bait you and many of us take the bait because we think it shows strength to defend ourselves. The truth is, this “debate” is a trap that keeps us from moving forward. It’s like abortion in politics. The more folks obsess over it, the less they pay attention to everything else.

I’ve used this analogy before, but I’ll also compare it to the whole “glass half-empty half-full” debacle. Oh, I see it as half full, I’m an optimist. Oh, it’s half empty, I’m such a Samantha. The truth is any “debate” about the fullness of the glass does not change how much is actually in the glass. In fact, it only serves as a distraction that keeps you from more important topics. What’s in the glass? Is it safe to drink? Was anyone exploited in making the glass?

“As weird as it is to say this; There will always be people that do not understand why you don’t believe in an invisible God in the sky.”

So… what is a Bright to do?

Most importantly, get off defense. I’ve said it before and I say it often: Don’t be defined by someone else’s inability to understand you. Most of those folks aren’t interested in your opinions, they just want to push your buttons and prop themselves up for a moment. As soon as you take the bait, you dignify their accusations – and they have not earned that. Ignore them entirely. Don’t respond thoughtfully. Don’t respond with a joke. Don’t respond angrily. Just don’t respond. Ignoring a troll is the best insult at your disposal. That’s worth repeating: ignoring a troll is the best insult at your disposal.

“Don’t be defined by someone else’s inability to understand you.”

When you’re a child and someone calls your mom a whore, you may be tempted to defend her. No, my good man, you are incorrect. Not only is my mother not a whore, she’s been in a sexless marriage since before you were born. But when you get older, at least in my experience, those insults mean less and less. I no longer care if you think my grandmother is sucking on Satan in hell. I no longer believe in spirits or Hell. And ultimately, well, y’know, that’s just, like, your opinion, man. To be clear, I’m not talking about ignoring everyone that asks you a question. I’m talking specifically about trolls, or folks that have zero interest in actually learning something. It’s pretty easy to figure out which is which.

We know that not all believers are rude, and we know there are plenty of rude non-believers. The internet brings out the latent jerk in many of us. Some jerks want to bog you down in an endless “debate” that keeps you from applying your ideals to the world at large. That keeps you from effecting change and ultimately from true happiness.

For those reasons alone we should do everything we can to take the power away from those that wish to marginalize us. If they can’t or won’t understand a simple lack of belief, there’s a whole lot more they’ll never understand. Stop wasting your time. They love any reaction they can get from you. Don’t get caught in their trap. Scroll right passed the guy in the forum that asks “Why are all atheists ugly?” or “Who are you to question God?” You’ll be the better person for it and it may ultimately reduce the troll population. A troll lives off your reaction. Don’t give them one. Starve them of the thing that gives them comfort. They will slowly disappear, and if not, you will at least have exercised the muscles that make it easier to ignore them down the line.

It’s time to move forward, Brights.

I was born and am alive but one day I'll be dead.

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A Riot of Entitlement

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1. If a foreign government had pulled off what occurred on Capitol Hill last week, that nation would currently be a rubble laden parking lot, bombed into the stone-age.

2. If BLM had pulled off what occurred last week, we would currently be having conversations like “Y’all remember freedom?” and “You ONLY got shot 6 times?!! Sheeeeit. Everybody else got at least 9… yeah we all in the studio recording now…”

3. Why is the foreign policy response more stringent than domestic policy when the threat is much worse due to proximity?

4. Why is the current law enforcement response akin to aiding and abetting simply because the assailants resemble, and in some cases are “law” enforcement? Do bullets not kill when your cousin is the shooter?

5. True privilege is complaining about your rights taken away right AFTER and BECAUSE you used those rights to violate others. Rights were granted by LAW and as such, can be rescinded… by LAW! Why does this even have to be explained?

Sidebar: For future reference, this is how you properly storm the Capitol! With Beyonce and legal votes!! Ahhhh 2012. The good old days! Make Inaugurations Great Again (MIGA Please!!) Sidebar Complete.

Alfred Obiesie is a writer with over 12 years of online content contribution (Onetrackmine.com, Cartermag.com, Essence.com) and author (You Made It a Hot Line; The most influential lines in hip hop.) The book chronicles hip hop lines from the genre’s most notable artists spanning almost 40 years. It is illustrated by Grammy award winning Illustrator Shah Wonders and has garnered praise from multiple media outlets (Sirius XM, Vibe, Brooklyn Public Library, Schomburg Center for Research in Black Culture, New York Public Library, etc...)

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Reluctant to get the Vaccine?

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Do me a favor, Open your fridge door and tell me if you have any insight into the regulation of those products and how they got there?

Whatever vaccine you decide to take (or not take) will probably be more federally regulated and scrutinized than 90% of the items you currently ingest. You share joints with people, eat food with ingredients you can’t pronounce, order wigs and sweaters from all over the world in the name of fashion, then turn around and loudly protest and profess about a vaccine and science, some thing of which you know little about.

Here’s the fun part; you don’t want to take it but you DEFINITELY want to commingle with those who have taken it as precaution and those who are still susceptible. Why? Because f*ck ‘em that’s why! Must be nice to not care about others while simultaneously requesting they respect your choices.

I would be riding with y’all if you actually had control, but more importantly, CONCERN for all things consumed prior but we seem to lapse our standards when there is a clear and direct benefit to our preexisting lifestyle. Y’all are wild inconsistent!!

Sidebar; Most of us will die of complications from a poor diet, alcohol and cigarettes but I don’t see anyone putting the BBQ sauce down or skipping happy hour. Sidebar Complete.

Alfred Obiesie is a writer with over 12 years of online content contribution (Onetrackmine.com, Cartermag.com, Essence.com) and author (You Made It a Hot Line; The most influential lines in hip hop.) The book chronicles hip hop lines from the genre’s most notable artists spanning almost 40 years. It is illustrated by Grammy award winning Illustrator Shah Wonders and has garnered praise from multiple media outlets (Sirius XM, Vibe, Brooklyn Public Library, Schomburg Center for Research in Black Culture, New York Public Library, etc...)

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November 16th – Trump Wins!

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Well, it’s official; President Donald Trump wins again!

While former Vice-President Joe Biden received more votes than any candidate ever, including winning the controversial electoral college, incumbent Trump has declared victory on Twitter as recently as this morning when he proclaimed “I WON THE ELECTION!”

And this is great news for the over 70 million of us that voted for Trump. We saw our horse lose the race, saw it confirmed, and yet here we are in the Winner’s Circle… again! There is a God, and thankfully it’s the one I believe in and not one of the weird ones.

Make America great again, AGAIN!

I’m sure I speak for millions of Americans when I say we look forward to four more years of keeping America great. Let’s face it, America was a shithole country four years ago before Trump made it great again. He promised that we’d be sick of all the winning, and he was, as always, right.

I’m praying that we can all look forward to four more years of the same kind of peace, harmony, and fair distribution of wealth we have enjoyed during his first term. Covfefe!!

 

 

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